The most beautiful hike I've been on outside of Hawaii. Tons of waterfalls and creeks to cross, huge boulders for climbing, a massive meadow of wildflowers to wade through, and a crazy blue alpine lake at the summit!
You guys I am reading this amazing book. I actually finished it today, but oh was it so good. If you can get past the title, I highly recommend it. He ended the book talking a lot about trust. It is hard to build trust once it has been broken. You have to see a consistent track record of positive behavior to see that change really is happening. I see this in parenting, in marriage, with friendships, with family, with coworkers and with people in general. The positive behavior has to continue to change for the better, or it begins to feel like the person that broke the trust doesn’t really care to make the change.
Remember this folks…. News flash, I need to remember this too. Trust is hard.
Be strong and say that you have had enough when your trust has been broken. It is hard to bring back trust, but if you want to move forward with a relationship it has to be done. The person that broke the trust needs to figure out what value they need to work on and how it was breached, and then the track record of better behavior needs to be seen. Period. You deserve to trust and to be free. Trust is the basic step in any healthy relationship. I took note of this tonight. It really hit me. Hard. I have really had some breaches of trust this summer and it has really pushed me back on my journey towards trusting people. I tend to trust right away, but I then get burnt. I love on my sleeve and I love everyone. I am not giving up on people (because that is crazy), but it stings. Like really bad. I struggle with trusting people and I always have. I have really worked to get past issues of trust, but when it is broken from the same types of seen behavior with all types of people from all stages of my life, it feels almost impossible to break through.
This chapter really helped me see that it isn’t always about ME but rather about what the other person is struggling with on their journey in life. They need to work on their values if they really want to be trusted again. Be patient with trust, but don’t settle for second best. All we can do in this life is focus on ourselves. I am not saying that I don’t need to work on my values, because I absolutely do.